Most parents have hopes and dreams for their children. I would guess that if asked a majority of parents would list happiness as their first goal for their kids probably followed by college and financial independence.

Having a nineteen year-old daughter and a son in high school has brought forthΒ an acute awareness that I am being watched very closely. I see clearly how all of these years I’ve been parenting, I’ve had two sets of eyes and two hearts studying my every action and decision.

I ask myself the question. Am I the person I want my children to be? My first goal for my kids was that I wanted them to be happy. Am I happy? Yes, very but there was a time when I was going through the motions of life and not appreciating all that I had. I was overwhelmed with work and responsibility and it affected my every day happiness. If you had asked me at that time what I wanted for my kids I would have said happiness yet I wasn’t living it. Years later when our lives had fallen into a better balance, Kai casually mentioned the positive change he had seen in me. My first reaction was sadness. In my quest for fulfilling my needs above my children’s I had taught selfishness and unhappiness. Then I tried to look at the big picture and hope that the lesson he learned was self discovery and courage to make a change. I became aware of how significant my parenting actions were–more so than my words.

When I look at every aspect of my life, my marriage, my friendships, my work, my spirituality, and I compare them with my hopes for my children it forces me to see the areas in my life where I am lacking. How could I hold such high expectations for my children when I don’t set the example?

Therefore my goal for 2013 is to be the person I want my children to be. I’m starting with the lesson of following your dreams and perseverance…I’m very excited to announce MYSTIC will be available through CreateSpace on January 5th 2013!


Comments to "Be The Person You Want Your Children to Be"

  1. Deanna

    January 5, 2013

    Krista you are AMAZING πŸ™‚

    • kdrausin

      January 5, 2013

      Wow! Thank you, Deanna.

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